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In Blog · June 13, 2022

Create A Career With Integrity

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When I first started to wake up, or open my eyes to realize there was something bigger than myself and the life I was living, I took various roads to explore that. 

One of those paths was the professional development route, learning the power of affirmations and the law of attraction. I learned how to manifest, and how to structure my daily routines in a way that would set me up for success.

This path led to a natural segue into spirituality, which felt more aligned once I was given the foundations of personal development. As I moved out of all these pre-paved timelines and chose a life of sovereignty, I had to reevaluate all of the things I had learned WHILE I was growing.

I think a lot of the time when we have chosen a path of growth, we only compare ourselves from where we are to the person we were before we woke up – and we forget that we need to also challenge the versions in between that. 

The healed versions of you can hold you back. 

What I mean by that is;  We need to let go of good things, to make room for great things.

Free will is a bitch.

One of those conditionings is the concept of pushing ourselves. In other words, the human need for us to “challenge” ourselves, and constantly push the boundaries.

Yes, this conditioning got you out of the stagnant pool of energy you were in before working on yourself, but this is because it is actually a survival mechanism, not a lifestyle.

I see a lot of people in the healing community who hold on tight to this one, and it’s keeping them from expanding past their own perception of sovereignty.

I am not telling you to lose all desire to be better, in fact, quite the opposite – I am asking you to do that from your heart, instead of your ego.

There is a very large vibrational difference between pushing yourself and choosing yourself.

We think pushing ourselves is choosing ourselves, but it’s really resisting your natural flow. Let me give an example:

When I was in my twenties I decided that I was going to challenge myself to eat no meat for a year. For me, it had nothing to do with health, it had nothing to do with the animals, and it was purely on the basis that I wanted to push the boundaries within myself and see how much I could withstand and overcome.

I actually told myself, “If I can do this, I can do anything.”

Sound familiar?

So in essence, I was saying to myself, “How long can I make myself do something I don’t want to do?”

This is what a challenge is – forcing ourselves to do things we do.not.want.to.do.

That’s a bit silly, isn’t it?

So for a year, I was disciplined in this challenge, yet every day I dreamt of hot dogs and steaks and drooled over my friend’s meals when they ordered meat at lunch. I looked for ways to curb my cravings, like with vegan substitutes, and overindulged in other things to satisfy me.

When I neared my one-year mark, I counted down the days, and almost down to the hour of completion, I ate a ton of meat.

The happiest I was in that entire last year was when I finally ate a plate of meat. However, after doing so, it took my body an entire month to adjust to the extreme shift in hormone levels after depriving myself for so long, and then over-indulging in one sitting.

I lost ten pounds from the stomachaches, I got severe acne from the hormone imbalance, and to be honest, I realized I got nothing out of the challenge.

The only thing I learned was that I could do it. I was really good at forcing myself to do something I didn’t like.

It didn’t bring me joy, it didn’t make me a better person. All it did, because I do believe everything serves a purpose, is showing me how much I get in my own way.

This is why I say pushing yourself is a function of the ego.

If I was to have chosen myself, I would have honored what my body needed – I would have decided to eat meat. I would instead, nurture the part of me that felt the need to challenge myself and come to terms with my fears regarding failure, and my fears regarding not accomplishing something.

Because these are conditionings that the ego tries to sustain and keep alive, so the ego can stay in the driver’s seat.

The goal is not to kill the ego, again another conditioning picked up by many in the healing space. It is to create a BALANCE of head and heart, where the relationship changes to the heart in the driver’s seat and the ego takes the backseat – your heart decides when it chimes in.

As long as you are living in a human body, the ego will always be present, learn to create a relationship with it, and come to terms with its presence, instead of pushing it out of the car.

So I am going to challenge you to switch out words, in order to shift the vibration from head to heart.

First, “I choose myself,” instead of “I challenge/push myself.”

The next, which goes hand in hand with the phrases above, is the misconception surrounding motivation.

Motivation, which by definition is “the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way,” is a logical reason to do something. Essentially, you are choosing something directly based on your ego.

Inspiration carries the vibration of the heart. And it is the only thing that will actually initiate true change – motivation does not have this capacity.

If you continue to function in a way where you rely on motivation instead of inspiration, you will stay on a hamster wheel of unfulfillment.

At last, we come to the ever-so-popular word, discipline. What’s funny about this is, we have the courage to stop others from disciplining us but don’t see how much we discipline ourselves.

In the healing space, and most notably the professional development space, this is a buzzword. It’s all about self-discipline, keeping your ass in check.

Do you know what the actual definition of discipline is?

“The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.”

We quite literally, are obsessed with punishing ourselves. This, again, is conditioning.

Instead of disciplining yourself, transition to a perception of discernment.

Its definition is, “the ability to judge well.”

Can you feel the vibrational difference here?

Instead of forcing yourself into societal boxes, ask yourself what’s right for you, ask yourself if this box is worthy of your presence.

DISCERNING what is right for you is more powerful than any act of discipline, because it is the decision from the heart, and it is decided in full faith, which means, YOU are creating what your world looks like, not forcing yourself into another.

This will move you from a state of disempowerment to a state of empowerment.

If you resonate with these word transitions, try the following mantra with me:

I will always choose myself, even if it means dialing back instead of adding on.

I will seek inspiration because the path to things I truly align with is not one of suffering.

I will practice the art of discernment because I am ready to create my own path instead of settling for the ones laid before me.

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In Blog · June 6, 2022

The Secret Elixir Is Joy

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Yesterday, on a lazy but blissful Friday with my two-year-old son, I made coffee and breakfast and put on a new show while he watched cartoons on his iPad. I am into basically anything on HGTV, so I put on “Mediterranean Life” on Hulu. The show is about families, mainly American, choosing to leave their busy structured lives back in the States and move to a beach town on the coast of the Mediterranean to experience a slower pace. 

Sounds delicious right?

As I was soaking in the frequency of this, because I don’t ever watch anything without thinking deeper conceptually, I realized something pretty groundbreaking:

Most people don’t know what brings them joy.

 

Let’s circle back and break down how I got to this point. In this show, there are a lot of things being revealed, but in summary, almost every single family is changing the way they live their life. They are letting go of routines, of full-time work life, and literally creating a new way of being. Almost every single family said, “I feel so free.”

Let that sink in deeper – These families are FREEING themselves.

Now, of course, I thought, what would my life be like if I had nothing but time in a slow-paced lifestyle?

Because of the amount of time I have spent getting to know myself on a soul level, I was able to quickly answer this question. I knew exactly how my life would look and how I’d fill my schedule, and then I thought, I don’t think many others would be able to.

So I tested it.

I thought of people who perhaps held on tighter to their careers and others who didn’t have many hobbies and asked them this question:

“If you were born rich and didn’t work,  who would you be? How would you spend your time?”

It turns out that if you have never explored what truly brings you joy outside things tied to money, worth, or responsibility, you would find it hard to answer this question.

If you’re wondering why your life feels like one giant monotonous routine, or that you have no time for yourself and life just sometimes feels flat, it’s likely because you don’t know yourself.

Or, you’re someone who knows exactly what you’d answer, yet you think because you’re not rich you can’t enjoy the things you list in the answer.

You can have both. 

You can be an amazing parent and still light your heart on fire.

You can still be successful in your career and enjoy something else that fills your cup differently.

You can still have a social life and enjoy light-hearted nights out, and still have something that’s just for you.

So this post is a challenge to you, are you doing things that really bring you joy? Like swells up your heart, calms your nervous systems, and makes you believe in miracles joy?

Because you might as well be a zombie walking around if you’re not.

If you don’t know what these things are yet, it’s okay, we get distracted. But now that I’ve got your attention, take the time to find out.

So I am going to ask you the question again, and share my own answer, to inspire you:

“If you were born rich and didn’t work, who would you be? How would you spend your time?”

 

I live a full life of creation. I have a home close to family, but also another on the coast of Spain. I’d spend my days waking up with no real schedule or agenda, just that I get to ask myself what I’d like to work on that day. I’d paint in the garden, and take pride in the little oasis I made for myself.

I grow my own herbs and maybe some peppers, nothing too complex. I’d cook new meals with fresh ingredients and spend quality time with my son. I’d learn new instruments, maybe a traditional dance style, and I’d write my heart out. Books, articles, short stories, whatever pours out of me that day. I’d teach writing workshops and collaborate and connect with other writers, and find other ways to create with my hands, like pottery and knitting. My joy is in creation. 

If you’re having trouble tapping into the frequency of this, try this mantra:

I am ready to stop ignoring the beat of my own heart

I am prepared to listen to its song

I surrender to its wants and desires

I am responding to my clarion call

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In Blog · May 25, 2022

Healthy Time Management: There Is A Method To The Madness

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To many, and especially moms, this sounds completely surreal. Yes, I thought that too, and honestly, it took me a lot of trial and error to get here. Luckily for you, I bared the brunt of the suffering, so now I can teach you the shortcut.

 

I have had many, and I mean MANY moments in my life where I fought the shit out of the wave that was falling over me. It got to the point where I was drowning as I punched the waves, exhausted, borderline drowning, and miserable beyond belief.

 

Even when I rose from rock bottom and started to work on myself, and things got better, I still felt like there was a hole inside of me, or there was something that was not totally satisfied deep within my being.

 

I’d have thoughts like, “Why do I have to do this?” or “Is this all life is, responsibilities and doing shit you don’t want to do so one day when you are senile you can?”

 

Sorry, but f*ck that.

 

It brought me to an internal crossroads, in which I had to truly ask myself, what the hell do I want? Do I want to live for now, or live for a moment that doesn’t even exist? I chose to live now because any time in my life I ever decided to be fully present it was the happiest I had ever been. What’s there to lose in being right where you are, fully?

That’s step 1 – choose to live only in the NOW. 

Not in the past with your traumas, and not in the future with your attachment to expectations. Just here, at this moment, while you read this article, this is your priority.

 

To actually do this, wholeheartedly, is easier said than done, but we’ll get to that a little bit later. First, in order to stop clinging to your past, you need to acknowledge it. It’s time to go inward and to finally see all of the moments in your life that hurt you, that stole hope from you, and that instilled crippling fear in you. 

 

When you acknowledge it, it bubbles up to the surface and that can be overwhelming and terrifying, but that’s okay because the present you has got your back. They won’t let you fall, they will not allow what haunts you to happen again. The present you, the one who is choosing to live only in the now, can hear your wounds, see them for what they are, and they are just experiences that have shaped you, good or bad. They are the reason for your survival mechanisms and your defenses, which at one point saved you, acknowledge those too.

 

Once you have identified your wounds, and understand how they have shaped you and the way you perceive your reality, it’s time to let them go. Let them go with all the love in your heart, and thank them for getting you to this moment, right now.

 

Now that you have done the work to commit to a life in the present, your energy already feels lighter, doesn’t it? Let’s keep going.

Release all responsibility that’s not yours.

At first glance you might think, I can’t I have to. NO YOU DON’T. This is a CHOICE. This is the difference between choosing yourself, and self-sacrificing, and newsflash, no one is asking you to become a martyr.

 

I grew up in a family that not only left me to take care of myself but expected me to take care of everyone else as I got older because I had demonstrated I was responsible, without realizing that it was just me surviving the environment I was put in.

 

Stop taking care of people. Stop taking on extra work at your job because you’re capable or the best at what you do. Stop putting your entire family, including your children before you, because not even children want you to give up on yourself.

 

When my mother died, I bent over backward to take care of everything. I took on all the financial responsibility, the logistics of her funeral and belongings, and also her children and subsequent family members who couldn’t keep it together.

 

I was a shoulder to cry on, the one signing the checks, and the person taking custody in court. Meanwhile, I was completely ignoring my husband and newly adopted child at home, while I cried in the shower and drank a bottle of wine to myself every night.

 

Everyone was taken care of except me – and I was the only one who paid the price for it. When I started to do my shadow work (step 1) I vowed to let go of all of the responsibility that was mine, but actually was not. So I had to identify what was my responsibility.

 

I decided that my only responsibilities in this life were myself, and my biological son. Everything else had to go. I let the job I hated go, and looked for one in the passion I was avoiding for a decade because I thought it wouldn’t make me money.

 

I gave away the pet that I didn’t even like and admitted I just didn’t want to take care of anything additional, I needed to take care of myself for a change.

 

I stopped taking calls from cousins and aunts who only called me when they needed something, I cut off friends who only gave me one-sided relationships. I set boundaries with my close family members.

 

You may say, okay but there are things I don’t want to do but they are still my responsibility. Well, I am going to challenge you again to reconsider that, and perhaps it’s a perception change that needs to happen.

 

When my mom first died, I did a coaching session to help me grieve her death, and she asked me something I was shocked to hear, “Do you think you should be the one to take custody of your brother?”

 

I felt sick and in disbelief when she asked me that because it triggered me and I had never even considered the question before. I dismissed it and told her of course it’s what I wanted, I have never been happier to be his guardian.

 

Years later when I found myself asking that question organically, I realized that I hadn’t taken on responsibility because I wanted it of my own free will, I did it as a duty to my mother.

 

This responsibility, especially in my case was not mine to take, yet it sent me down a very circuitous timeline that was still beautiful but holy shit was it hard. Because, all along, he already had a second mother who was there from the beginning and wanted to take him full time. I told her no, I fought her, I distanced her from him even though time and time again he would tell me he’d like to be with her.

 

Four years later, as we came to a crossroads in our life I realized that I was now actually holding him back by forcing a family dynamic for the sake of responsibility. Neither of us was happy. It was hard for me to admit this, yet in this newfound perception I didn’t hesitate, and so I picked up the phone and called his second mother.

 

It was the best decision I ever made because he is now the happiest he’s ever been – I just had to be honest with myself.

 

When something comes up, before taking it on, ask yourself, is this truly my responsibility? Do I want to be responsible?

Simplify your life.

Once I did this I noticed I had so much more time in my day to do things that brought me joy, to slow down and focus on the few things that mattered. I also had less things doing laps in my head, I had this ease inside my body, a rejuvenation I never thought just simplifying my life would do.

 

Every day I wake up and ask myself, what do I need today? Not, what does my child or partner need, ME. And I frame my entire day around that answer.

 

If I am feeling sick or maybe just in a funk, I take the day off. If I need a connection, I book a coffee date with a girlfriend. If I want to take an hour shower, I make the time.

 

Every time I did this, I noticed that things I needed to get done, were done in their own time. It was as if I created my own clock, and even if I did what I wanted all morning, I’d still get everything done that afternoon.

 

Yes, I still worked, but guess what – I love work so much I always want to do it. This way of life creates a synergy, and that symbiotic flow is the vibration of ABUNDANCE.

 

I’ve got time, this is important right NOW.

I can invest in this program for myself because it’s what I need right NOW.

I won’t be afraid to take off work or go for my dream job because it’s what I want right NOW.

 

When we put out that level of FAITH, we call in abundance like a boomerang, and you’d be surprised how much God has got your back.

 

Lean into this, this is the way to free yourself.

 

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In Blog · April 5, 2022

The Key to Manifestation is Aligned Action

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Google may supply you with the top articles on how to become a master manifester, but let’s be honest – if it was that easy we’d all be driving Lamborghinis by now.

 

I’m not going to list out all the ways to manifest because the information is out there. We know that visualization is important, we know that feeling how it feels to have something is critical.

 

We know that you need to know what you want and be specific about that want in order to attract it into your life.

 

However, I have done all these things repeatedly over a long period of time only to realize that nothing came of it. I’ve also manifested something in a matter of days, and it turns out it wasn’t even in alignment with me.

 

Manifesting is a form of creating, and when those juices are flowing we can easily illuminate the dark or the light without even realizing it. A good example is this:

 

Let’s say all day I say to myself, “I hope it doesn’t rain. I really hope it doesn’t rain during the ceremony later.” 

 

You may be thinking you are doing the rain dance with these convictions and saying to the Gods, “these are positive vibes for a sunny day!”

 

Sike – you’re actually emitting the vibration that you would like it to rain, because the focus is on it raining, and not on it being sunny – Are you picking up what I’m putting down?

 

This same idea applies when you are manifesting something with knowledge and purpose -you can do amazing things like journaling our goals or perhaps picking out furniture for a new apartment you haven’t gotten yet. 

 

These are ways to actively align you with the vibration needed to achieve the desired reality you seek.

 

But unfortunately, this is merely talking the talk without walking the walk, and here’s why:

 

You can’t put in the effort to align with a frequency just on the weekend or for a week when you’re feeling spicy to properly manifest what you want.

 

This is not a side hustle or a fun game, it’s stepping into a new reality.

 

That means that every thought, every action, and every decision should be in alignment with that reality.

 

You may be thinking – how the hell do I do this and still function like a normal human, and the answer is, change how you human.

 

To change how you human, you take aligned action.

 

Aligned action is the deliberate practice of moving through your day with the goal of only experiencing things that feel good to you – Decisions that feel expansive and light in your body.

 

As an entrepreneur, I was challenged with this quite a bit as I was the one controlling my schedule and could easily sway out of aligned action.

 

As a freelance writer, my client base is critical for my income. However, I noticed that when I concentrated on the number of clients or the number of projects I had, all I thought about was how much money I’d make that month. 

 

I was no longer present for the work, I wasn’t grounded in my day, because I was in hustle mode trying to add more to my plate instead.

 

This is not an aligned action, because it is taking me out of alignment.

 

As a result, I wasn’t getting the specific projects I wanted to work on, and I felt like I wasn’t successful in my efforts, even though I was actively working towards manifesting them.

 

I had to take a step back from my work and have a day to myself and sit with this. Sometimes when we think we’ve let go, we are actually holding on too tight, so I decide to relax my efforts and instead lean into the faith I had in my own ability as a writer.

 

The following day my only focus was on my writing. I wrote the pieces that were sitting in my heart and ready to be written, and I finished work in half the time.

 

I reached out to potential clients who had projects that filled my soul regardless of the pay. I didn’t count up my invoices or double-think my spending.

 

In fact, I spent more. I treated myself like my salary was double what it was.

 

I did this for a month. Guess what happened? I had the most impressive month to date. I had the highest measurable results, the quality of my writing landed me a dream job, and most of all, I was the happiest I’d ever been.

Aligned action frees you from the shackles of your ego.

 

This article I am writing as we speak is an aligned action. It’s wasn’t on my content calendar this week, but my soul said this is what I’d like to speak on today.

 

To clarify, aligned action is commonly missed when manifesting because we decide to do things that might help us manifest something but it’s not aligned with us as a person.

 

Big difference.

 

Understand that you won’t ever have to sacrifice your integrity to be worthy of something.

 

So instead of doing what you think you should do to attract a partner, to land your dream job, or afford that new house, start doing less.

 

Start dialing it back and focusing your full energy on the actions that really align with your heart – this is what moves mountains.

 

If you want a new job and feel the most in your pocket networking, forget all the time you spend trying to amp your resume and just go to networking events. Have faith that your ability to connect is what will present an amazing opportunity for you.

 

This is a new world, and in this reality, we are picking out the colors, creating the landscape, and deciding who’s in the portrait.  So harness that power you’ve watered down and lock into aligned action because we’ve got a blank canvas to fill.

 

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